In the midst of National Infertility Awareness Week, I’d like to do a wellness post about meditation. Sometimes the word can sound super intimidating, or even silly to some. But hear me out for a minute or two.
What is Meditation?
Synonyms for meditation are: contemplation, though, musing, reflection, concentration. The definition reads: to engage in contemplation or reflection.
I’m no Rafiki, but you should know there is NO wrong way to meditate. There are hundreds of different types of meditation out there – do what works for you.
Why I Started
I know everyone in this world at some point in their lives becomes so overwhelmed with emotion or stress. No one is perfect, everyone struggles sometimes. When I look back on my adult years – scratch that, my entire life – my biggest struggle/stressor was trying to get pregnant. If anyone has tried to get pregnant before and has started to fail, you know it starts to overcome your mind, body, and soul.
I started obsessing over my basal body temperature, ovulation pee sticks and every little twinge that happened in my abdomen. I read blogs, I researched foods to eat, foods not to eat, sex positions, everything. When we started with IVF, I was overwhelmed with fear and actually felt ashamed. How was I one of “those people” who needed IVF to have a child? How was this my life?
I could go on and on and on about the emotions of trying to conceive a child. It has definitely shaped me as a person, changed my marriage (for the better) and made me appreciate these little boys like no other.
I do want to talk about Zoning Out (my form of meditation). The medication schedule, multiple appointments, lab work and ultrasounds can all get to you. I needed something that I could do for myself and by myself to help take my mind off of things.
How I Started
I started off having my own quiet time during Greyson’s afternoon nap. I would read, pray or write my blog and sit and try to focus on the good instead of the stressful. Anyone who knows me knows that I can’t sit still for long. My meditation soon turned into woodworking. The first summer that we started trying for Rowen, I decided that I hated my dining room table, but couldn’t afford the table I really wanted. So I decided that I could fix this problem (unlike the other problem that I couldn’t fix) so I made a table. and a bench.
My reflection time then went into running. Running is really where I had the best reflection time. I was about to think about things in a way that I couldn’t when at rest. During the years I was trying to get pregnant, I ran 1 full marathon and 5 half marathons. Putting the miles in cleared my head like nothing else in the world could.
Some would say running isn’t really meditation. But I feel that the definition is pretty open-ended. Like I said, I’m no guru of meditation, but I do know that my form of it helped me through the toughest time of my life.
So take a minute. Breath a little deeper, slow down your heart rate (or speed it up, as in my case) and try to focus on the now. Put on the Meditation Relaxation playlist on Spotify and just chill. Your body needs to be reminded that you can slow down and your mind needs to be reminded that you are sane.
Try out different types of meditation.
I’m not saying meditation will sure your problems. But a healthy mind is a great tool to have when dealing with adversity and stress.
So give it at try